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Premature Motherhood 
18th-Sep-2007 10:02 am
I'm accused of being a mother quite often these days. I say accused, because I don't have any children of my own.

Most times when I'm mistaken for a mother it's because I'm taking advantage of the opportunity to carry my snugly goddaughter around.

Over the weekend, I got temporarily assigned as mother to the new bairn.

clanmorrissey, otherwise known as A&C, met up with me at the Bon Accord centre for a cup of coffee in the early afternoon of Sunday. We dropped off the two girls at the creche (nothing like a ball pool to get toddlers excited!) and went down to Costa.

After a much needed infusion of caffiene, C went to look at prices for a new raincoat and A and I went into John Lewis. I needed one last bit of tartan ribbon to finish off the girls' flowergirl dresses.

The new baby had slept through the coffee and most of the way through John Lewis. I bought the ribbon and then caught up to A. He'd gone to look at some new buggy that does everything but make tea and hoover the front room.

When I got there, a couple with a toddler were admiring the baby.
As I arrived, the women said something similar to 'oh, I can see the lack of sleep in your eyes'.

'Sorry, I'm not the mother', I said.

I suppose I could be offended (since I don't think I look that tired), but I can't be bothered.

As I said above, most times, I'm mistaken for being the mother of my goddaughter.
I can tell you right now why people think such. C is thin as a rail with a perfect figure.
It looks impossible that she could have given birth to three children.

Whereas, I look like I probably could have, apparently. :)
18th-Sep-2007 09:57 am (UTC)
Lol! I feel quite offended if people ask me if I have children! I look aghast and think do I look mumsy? Do I look sleep deprived and haggared? Do I smell of baby sick? Has my buson drooped?!

Of course if I am ever in the company of small children anyone can tell a mile off they are not mine! You are obviously comfortable with small children. I am either scared I will drop them and shove them back at their mother when they cry/smell/are sick!
18th-Sep-2007 10:36 am (UTC)
To be fair I know plenty of people who have had babies who don't look tired, fat, haggard, have droopy boobs or indeed smell of sick. (I have however, in my time met people without children who smell of sick....)

However, nobody has ever asked me if i have children so I presume I must look barren. Which is somehow worse :/
18th-Sep-2007 10:50 am (UTC)
Having not seen you in real life, I can't say...but I can't imagine that someone can look barren. :)
18th-Sep-2007 11:30 am (UTC)
I was being dramatic, of course women with babies can look great!
18th-Sep-2007 10:50 am (UTC)
I'm not keen on children myself. These are the only three that I'll claim. But, they're basically perfect. (A little whining occasionally, but I do that as well, so I can't point fingers. :) )
19th-Sep-2007 03:55 am (UTC)
I second you with all of this; the post and this reply :)

How often do complete stranges come to me and address me as th mother of Vikke and Valtteri? Every single time we're out and about! Also is it disturgbing to me, how much Sanna feel like being and acting like a mother and still put aside just by her looks. Not to mention I'd ever have children if I was this heavy, they'd too likely not end p being healthy babies anyway.

Tells a bit about my appearance, and also Sanna's ;)
18th-Sep-2007 11:58 am (UTC)
When my cousin E was young, people thought she was mine constantly. The answer to that was simple. Her mother had blonde hair and she had dark hair. Because of my dark hair as well, the child was obviously mine.
18th-Sep-2007 12:34 pm (UTC)
When I was an au pair, aged eighteen, a crazy old lady once yelled at me on a bus for being an unmarried mother.

I cling to the thought that the three-year-old on my lap probably didn't understand a word of it and will have long since forgotten about it.
19th-Sep-2007 09:11 pm (UTC)
Your goddaughter is so nice that when people think that you are her mother you can take this as a compliment =)

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